Confidence
Let's face it- everyone has insecurities and moments of self doubt. It's very easy to let these things hold you back from being your most confident self, so here are a few things to help work through and manage insecurity and self-doubt.
Do things that make you feel good about yourself.
This can look like completing a tough workout, finishing a book, doing your hair and makeup and picking out a cute outfit, cleaning your space, relaxing in the bath, cooking your favorite meal, or spending time with loved ones. Reflect and get in touch with the core essence of your true, authentic self. Akgnowledge your accomplishments and successes in life, and take pride in who you are today, and how far youve come.
2. Build your confidence with activities.
Take a step outside your comfort zone and do the scary things. I promise the more you practice the more your comfort zone expands and the scary things dont seem scary anymore. A physical, visual or social reminder of your progress can help you to remind yourself how far yovue progressed. Here are a few ideas:
Physical
If youre interested in fitness, progressively challenge yourself and you will see physical changes to remind you that youve worked hard to accomplish even the smallest gain. Or, you could make a physical list of your life accomplishments and milestones, no matter how small and leave it somewhere visible to remind yourself of how proud you should be of yourself.
Visual:
If youre a creative type, you more than likely have a project you've left unfinished for ages. Finish that project with an entirely different medium. Collage around that half-finished painting, print out that digital art and grab some markers, close off that almost hat youre crocheting/ knitting and embroider or bead it. Subvert expectations and challenge yourself.
Social
Create an Alter Ego, put on that makeup /hairstyle / outfit youve been too scared to wear in public, and go out to places you normally pass up to meet some people outside of your normal social circle. Cultivate the aquantinceship into friendship and remind yourself you are confident enough to make friends with anyone. (Safety first tho besties, use ur common sense and trust your gut)
3. Just do you.
The moment I decided to let go of other people's expectations and opinions of me, I became truly free. There are so many people each with their own opinions on how to live 'the ideal life,' but the only thing that truly matters is that YOU are happy with yourself and your life. And if you arent, change what you have the power to, and have patience with the things you can't. while social media has caused us to forget what real actual people look and act like, a walk around your local area can put things in perspective. Plus, nobody likes a copycat- why try to be what the world has seen over and over when you could be the original trendsetter?
4. Psychology- Vocabulary & Body Language.
If youre someone who frequently says "Im not sure but..." or "I guess..." or "This might be dumb but...", you will be perceived as much more confident by removing these and similar phrases from your vocabulary. The right body language can also help you come off as more confident- walk into that room like you own it, head held high, good posture, a slight smile, and strut your fine self over to your seat.
5. Protect your Peace.
This is key to happiness and confidence. We all know a few Negative Nancys and Debbie Downers, so really take a deep look at why these people are in your life. If at the end of the day they make your life more miserable than manageable, block and delete them when applicable (I wouldn't burn salvageable family bridges, but 100000% leave if its mental, emotional or physical manipulation or abuse- trust your judgement and make the safest and best decision for yourself).